Ahmad Razlah Ahmat

Today is only the second of Hari Raya Aidilfitri 2006/1427. And I’m already working. Although its only two sectors but its two long sectors. More than 3 hours each sector. The load were horrible, 42 up and 37 down. The leading stewardess got so much free time, she spend most of her time in the cockpit.

The co-pilot have flown with her many times a supposed. So much so he even know who is she going out with. I like it when my crew, especially, my co-pilot, know his crew very well. However the relationship is. The co-pilot after a few topics of conversation asked her about her love life. Both of us were shocked to her answer. Her answer was, today was her first flight after one month of medical leave. I asked her what happened. She said she has to recover from bruises on her face. ??????

A month ago, she had a big fight with her tech crew boyfriend. Apparently, she caught her boyfriend redhanded sleeping with another stewardess. They have been going out for about 8 years now. They have been such a loving couple (well atleast thats what the Lss think). She brought the topic of the other person in his life and he got angry and violence. Started to throw punches either with his fist or by using something that he can find in her house. Blood started to drip. She ran from the house straight to the nearest police station and launch a report.

Now, he is threatening her to withdraw the police report. She stood to her decision of not withdrawing the report. But, now she is worried that the report is going to effect his carrier as a techcrew.

She asked my opiniom about the whole scenario.

My opinion.

What she did by running away from him and launching a police report was the best thing to do. Unfortunately, this case, without a witness is going to be difficult although she has a medical report saying that she was injured. The problem was, the medical report did not say that the injuries was done by a person. Secondly, they are not legally married but staying together. With regards to his carrier, since the said incident did not occur in company’s premises, it did not happen during company’s hours, the employer can opt not to consider it as a disciplinary problem for a disciplinary action to be taken against him unless she submit a separate report with the police report as attachment, then the company can CONSIDER to take action. But, the problem is both of them are not from the same company.

My advise to her, since I’m hearing from one side of a story, is to stay away from him, avoid all calls, never be alone and wether she like it or not, she has to wait for what the police going to do next and what is or are his next action.

Gentlemen;

We are man. We have Brain. We have heart. We are suppose to be leaders. We are not animals. Violence is not the answer. Remember…. the opposite sex, be it they are your girlfriend, fiance, wife or even scandal (hehehe), should be `handle with care’. They are not your trophy, they are not your entitlement, they are not your playmate, they are not your punching bags. They are a gift from GOD. GOD thrusted us with them. Everyone of you believe in GOD right. Just imagine, if you received a gift from your love ones, aren’t you going to `handle it with care’? Now you received a thrust from GOD Almighty…..

Take Good Care of the Gift from God.

If Not…. God might take away the gift from you and other things too.

I’m suppose to fly back yesterday, but the flight was cancelled due to very low load. Last night after we were informed that the flight was cancelled (when we were already in the aircraft), I decided to buy the whole set late breakfast dinner. We had dinner at the Waterfront infront of Promenade Marina Court, behind K-Box. It was a great dinner. Conversation topics were interesting. As usual I insist that we only talk about aviation in total. Nothing about gossips, talking bad about company. They seems to enjoy it because they like to know how AirAsia do things and make money.

On the way back (a long walk) one of the stewardess, Fss Timah (bukan nama sebenar) approach and asked me if she would be able to talk to me separately. I asked her what about. She said something personal. I said why me? We only just met today? She said  tuuuuut…..

Anyway, this is her story.

Timah join Mas as a Fss about a year ago. She is going out with a co-pilot, So Mamat (bukan nama sebenar) based in Kch, for about a year now. But, they have met 4 years ago as friends during school days. Now  she is confuse if she is making the right choice of saying yes to be a steady girlfriend to Mamat. I asked her why? She said that now she fornd out that both of them have nothing in common. I’ve asked her to elaborate.

Timah is a youngest child in the family. Brought-up in a modern liberal/conservative family. A clubbing person. Do not drink nor smoke and still a virgin. In Kul, far from Kch, she is enjoying life to the fullest. Doing whatever things she wants and like to do except you know what (virgin maa..) Leaving alone in Bukit Jalil in an apartment bought by her father although her family is only staying in Shah Alam.

Mamat is the eldest son in the family. Brought-up in a modern conservative highly disciplined family. Still saying with family. Mamat is not a clubbing person. A virgin too (so say timah). Do not smoke nor drink.

Since they were going steady, Mamat have given specific instructions to timah. One. During nightstops she is not allowed to go out with friends (boys or girls) for clubbing. Two. During nightstops she is not allowed to go out for dinner with friends (boys or girls). Three. During nightstops she is to have dinner in the room by ordering room service only. Four. She is not to ask her friends to tapau food for her to have it in the room. Five. If she is nighstopping, he would send one of his friends (if he has any in that nitestopping station) who he trust to accompany her from the time she checked into the hotel untill she goes to sleep. If this friends took advantage of her, he would be in deep trouble because Mamat’s father knows many people.

I asked Timah; "How old are you girl?"

She replied; "going to be 21"

I replied back;"Whaaaaat!!!!!!"

I askek her again; "How old is Mamat?"

She aswered; "Just celebrated his 21st birthday last month"

and my reply was; "………..". (gedebang bang bung …..Jatuh dari kerusi)

Whats going on guys… Life in this world, given by god, is such a beautifull place to stay in to waste it by facing these kind of circumstances. Or should I say probplems. These are `seek yourself problems’. How much can a person love someone to restrict another person’s life. Who is he? God? Angel? Your future husband? We do not have the right to control another person’s life even after we are married. Every religion especially Islam have guidelines on how to manage a marriage. And I am very sure this kind of control by a man is not in it. If you are lazy to read the `kitab’s then use your god given human brain. Ask yourself. Are you sure she is going to be your lawfull wife? Are you sure you are the best man for her? Nobody can answer that question.  Not even yourself. You will only know when the results shows.

You gals….. Ask yourself what kind of man you want to leave with for the rest of your life. Do you think that you are happy with him now? If you are why are you consulting another person about how your love life is? That means you are not happy with the existing arrangements.

So….If you really think that he or she is the one for you, do somthing to improve each other character and behaviour ….. if not GET OUT FROM THERE.

God ….. please show some mercy to these couple….

This time around I will be flying with Jack (bukan nama sebenar). Never flown with him before. Unsure how he looks like. Watever it is, he is senior than me. This is one flight that I hate although it was a simple flight (what a waste), Kul/Bki only. Double nightstop in Bki. Promissed Capt Roger (bukan nama sebenar), Capt Mamat (bukan nama sebenar) to meet up at waterfront. Buka puasa had with Sanusi, Shazman and Fazlina at Philipino Market. We had ikan bakar. During the buka puasa asked me when can she talk to me about her problem. I said anytime but call me first. But till the end of this trip she did not call me at all. Whatever.

Called Flauli just to say hye. She still call me `Captain Daddy’. She said "Mahu jumpe?" I said, "No Problem, but I can only see her and other KK crew after 2100 on my second night in BKI. She said ok. But, again I was stood-up by `My Own KK Crew’. I think god is trying to say something to me.

Third day, a young friend of mine, a tech crew, Jalal (bukan nama sebenar) opened up to me. I do not why. He asked me should he take suplement if he were to do `it’ for the 1st time. Firstly, it takes guts for a person his age to admit that he is still a virgin at 26 years old. So my advise to him was, do not use any suplement for your first experience. Supplement should only be taken when you have problem medically and confirm by a doctor. But, he must, without fail use condom if baby is not in the plan. He looked glad talking to me about it. I’m glad to help. Another mission accomplished.

Life is sometimes interesting. On this date I was night stopping in Kch. It was double night stop for me. Arrived hotel at about 2130. My set and I decided to go out for late dinner. 2230 we left the hotel and went to just accrossed the hotel, Miami Bistro & Pub, which was under renovation for dinner. The dinner area was upstairs. After dinner everybody were so tired, decided to call it off for the day. At about 2330 a Fss call my room asking me if I was asleep. I said not yet. She was asking my permission to come over to my room. I asked why. She said, she just need to talk to someone. I was a bit reluctant. (Unbecoming of a man huh). She realized from my tone that I was a bit reluctant and immediately said that she will be in my room with another Fss. Then I said ok.

Initially we were just talking about general things. I was not sure how it started but she started talking about her previous life.

Joyah (bukan nama sebenar) used to be married to the most gorgeous man in Jhb, Atan (bukan nama sebenar). Joyah was only 19 when she first saw Atan in Kl. I supposed it was love at first sight for Joyah. Obviously its not the first for Atan. They were going out for about six month and got married. Joyah’s parents were against the marriage. Not because Atan was no good, but, Joyah was only 19. Did I mention to you that Atan was working in an airline called Bubutu Airlines (bukan nama sebenar). Joyah was working with Melayang Finance (bukan nama sebenar). After a few months Joyah was pregnant their first baby.

Life was goooood.

Comes the second pregnancy. Atan got fired from the company but told Joyah that it was a retrenchment exercise.

Life was no gooooood.

Atan’s father suggested to Atan to come back to Jhb and to start anew there. He did. Brought the first child while Joyah stays in Kl trying to apply for a transfer to Jhb. Meanwhile, Joyah became a weekend wife.

Joyah realize that after 3 months of staying in Jhb, got a job as a bar Captain in one of the hotel in JB, Atan have change. He has sold his car but brought different car every night. Worst, he started his old hobby, grass. Money was never enough for Atan. Started to ask from Joyah everytime Joyah comes to Jhb. If Joyah refuse to give or insufficient he starts to be physical. Joyah got hurt many times.

Joyah’s transfer came true. Life continues hipocrately ok. Sex to Atan is when his high. Sex to joyah is just a responsibility. But when Joyah do not performed, he will hit her. Joyah could not take it anymore. After confinement of their third child, Joyah drove alone back to Kl, to her parents house. She was jobless for about 3 months. Then Mas conducted a walk-in interview. She went and got the job as Flight Stewardess. She is now happy. 2 years old in MAS. Still staying with parents. But, not for long. She is getting a place for her and her 3 kids to stay and once her application for a maid is approved, she is going to move out. She has a boyfriend now. Not ready to get married yet. She is just enjoying life, being happy ang preparing all it takes to stay with her 3 kids.

My advise to her was, when you are happy, you have watever you required, enough for you and your kids to be happy, why do you need a man. I told her that if you are below 25 years of age, there are still many good man around but if you have passed 30, I’m sorry, the good ones are taken. So forget about yourself. 70% of your reason for leaving should be for your kids, 30% is for yourself. If there is jodoh for you, it will happen. When? God knows. So why worry?